Portrait of a Pinay as a Young Woman II

Should the lost be found?

Three things triggered me to write about this topic. The first being was replacing all the items that were in my purse which was stolen a few weeks ago out of Rich's car. Second was wondering whether to invite people I used to be friends with but drifted apart to be part of my circle of Facebook friends. The third thing being should I download songs that I listened to while growing up onto my iTunes library.

I am happy to say that I got back some of the items I lost. The rest I had to replace: wallet, cell phone, iPad, various credit cards, my debit card, my driver's license. I just wished I wrote down the numbers that I would frequently call. I'm so used to just looking up on my smartphone the name of the person I wanted to talk to and just selecting that person without having to dial the actual number. I know that will be a process once I get my new iPhone.

I've been pondering whether to reconnect with people I was once friends with then drifted apart. One person that comes to mind is my friend Andrea. We met while both of us were living in Washington, D.C. 15 years ago. We were both away from our families located in Southern Cali and both of us were involved in politics. Well, Andrea wanted to break into the political world which I was a part of as a congressional staffer. Sadly, Andrea never got s chance to do so. She ended up working for Oracle. We always had fun together and had dinner at California Pizza Kitchen which reminded us of home. I was the first to leave Washington, D.C. in 1998 to go back to California. Andrea soon followed when she managed to land a position at Oracle's headquarters on the peninsula. I was already in the Bay Area when Andrea arrived. We managed to get together and have fun even though the get togethers were far and few between. I met her boyfriend who later became her husband, Albern. I remembered how happy they were together. We promised that we were going to be in each other's weddings and be godmothers to our children. We just drifted apart once Andrea was spending a lot of time with Albern. I never did get an invitation to her wedding. She ended up moving to Southern Cali with Albern and started s family. I know she is on Facebook but do I want to extend an invitation to be friends with her after so many years?

I was tooling around iTunes when I found a song that reminded me of one of my ex boyfriends. I thought for a moment whether to buy it or not. I chose not to since I didn't want to be reminded of him. I wonder about that with other songs. Songs that I grew up with and wondering whether to incorporate them in my life now. I still debate whether to revisit The Cure, The Smiths, Def Leppard, Depeche Mode, and other alternative and hard rock bands I listened to in my teenage years. Do I want to revisit the angst that I had back then?

Maybe some thing that are lost are better off lost. I have yet to sort whether or not to reconnect with Andrea or to buy memories of my youth on iTunes. I'll get back to you on that.

posted by Edna @ 5:19 PM