Suburbia Gives Me Hives
It's true. Whenever I would visit my brother and his family down in So Cal or Rich and I would trek over to the burbs to see Hung and Nick and the latest Dr. Who episode, I literally have this feeling akin to claustrophobia.I have to say, I've been living most of my post college adult life in major metropolitan areas. I've always resigned myself that I would always single and living in the city. Well, that is no longer the case these days. The remaining single part that is.
I've been thinking about a lot of former city folks that picked up their belongings and fled to the burbs. I know the litany of complaints about living here in the City- there's no affordable housing, the schools are crap and crime is prevalent. Yet, I find certain gems here in the city that I would never ever find in the burbs.
It's kind of funny that I rag on the burbs but growing up there wasn't a cake walk. Being the only kid who was Filipino and trying to eek out an existence without going crazy.
I was talking to Nick the other day about houses. Rich and I have no desire to own a house these days and deal with the upkeep. Nick talked about having me and Rich get a condo- owning a piece of real estate without the major trips to Home Depot and channeling my butchy self.
I remembered one gal I used to know who is now a working mom in suburban San Diego saying how she's become a soccer mom with the minivan, house in the burbs, and the 2.5 children (she has two daughters). I take a look at it all and flatly said as if it was a reflexive action, "That's not for me." I know the comeback to that would be, "Let's see when you have children."
But what if we don't have kids? I'm wondering would we feel like the odd couple out because we don't want to reproduce. Don't get me wrong, I like kids. But, I question myself of my capability to be a mother. Can I just have the feeling of being pregnant and just not keeping the kid. Kind of sounds cruel but that's what I feel now.
If we do have a family, we envision ourselves raising out child in the city. I mean Rich made it through the urban jungle called San Francisco and look how he turned out. I hope the same goes for our child (if we decide to have one). If circumstance occurs that we don't or can't have a kid, there's always a pug.
posted by Edna @ 4:46 AM
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